Just Say You Aren’t Interested

no thank you


What is so difficult about saying you aren’t interested?

I’ll wait.

I really want an answer.


Why do people have such a difficult time with this? I have absolutely NO problem with saying it. I’ve been approached by guys and I’ve kindly explained that I wasn’t interested. “Thank you for the compliment, but no thank you.” Or, “Thank you, but I’m not interested.” Is it because I’m from California and I’m dealing with guys from the East? Or is it because I’m expecting common sense and it really isn’t that common these days?


I was talking to a really good friend of mine. He was telling me about a girl he went out with the other day. He wasn’t really looking forward to going out with her. He went. They talked. She has a kid – he doesn’t like dating girls that have kids. They know too many people – he’s not a fan of having the same circle of friends or too many mutual friends. I could go on and on about the things he didn’t like about her. And that is perfectly FINE. Your preferences are exactly that… YOUR PREFERENCES.

So I ask him, how did you tell her at the end of the date that you were interested. He said he didn’t.

Wait. What? Why not?

So of course the girl calls and texts him and he doesn’t respond. And he has the nerve to be annoyed that she’s trying to reach him. Uh, hello? If you don’t tell her you’re not interested, how exactly was she supposed to know to never call you again?

So I kinda snapped out on him. I told him he was a jerk for not telling her that he wasn’t interested and that he should in no way be annoyed that she was calling him. Then I told him he was what was wrong with humanity as a whole. So I might have gone a tad to far with the last line, but ya know… it felt good and it flowed in the conversation so perfectly!

Ladies. Gentlemen.

How do you tell someone you aren’t interested?

Post in the comments. Hopefully you guys are creative!!!

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